How to Love More and Care Less – Part One

“You can’t love that which you care about.” Lono Ho’ala

Introduction

Loving and caring are words that are often used interchangeably, but they have very different meanings. Why should we learn how to love more and care less?

From dictionary.com, care is “a state of mind in which one is troubled, worried or anxious” about someone or something, suggesting unhealthy attachment or toxicity. At the same time, Love pretty much accepts things as they are without trouble, worry or anxiety.

It’s important to differentiate between the two because caring too much can detract from our Awakening. We can become so wrapped up in worrying about someone or something that we forget our needs and identity.

Caring is often driven by a sense of control and fear, while Love is based in our Real Self Identity. If you find yourself constantly caring, i.e., about things beyond your control, it may be time to become more loving instead.

When we love instead of care, we’re more flexible, relaxed and open to what’s happening in and around us. We’re better-equipped decision-makers. We have compassion and serve the best interests of others whenever and however we are able, but we’re not attached to “should do’s” or outcomes.

Learning how to love more and care less helps us live more peacefully, efficiently, and without stress or tension. As Tony Robbins said “What a concept!” A  Love-directed state of mind can and does influence our temporary world view, i.e., perspective of human life in loving ways. We can apply Who We Are into our lives and drop our worries, one by one, or all at once. The best way to serve others is through serving who we really are. We are One Love Consciousness.

Trust – Let Go of Everything Else

It’s easy to want to control the person or situation when we care. However, if examined closely, this isn’t always possible; if ever, some might debate. Accepting that we can’t control things and it serves us best to Trust shows us it works to love more and care less.  

Accept Things as They Are

Yes. Accepting things as they are is the healthy way to go. This doesn’t mean we don’t take action when necessary. It just means that we don’t allow our happiness to be contingent on things going perfectly.

Let Go of “Need” Driven Caring

When we love more and care less, we let go of the need-driven behavior and outcomes. We also release co-dependent conditioning and enabling life-taking habits that we pay far too much attention to in others. We wait to see what happens and trust that whatever happens will be for the best, even if it’s not what we may have thought we wanted.

What life Really is takes care of itself. We can, through awareness, drop the need to care and see how to elevate our perspective to one of love instead. If we are patient, the bliss from the expanding clarity of this practice brings a deeper cognition of Universal Laws at work in our lives. These are Laws or Principles which operate at all levels of existence. Flowing with these immutable laws requires we learn how to love more and care less.

Needing things to be a certain way creates suffering. When learning how to love more and care less, we let go of need-based mind models.. We trust that whatever happens will be for the best, even if it’s not what we wanted.

Conclusion

When we sense ourselves caring about things beyond our control, it may be time to start loving instead. Accepting things as they are, letting go of the need to control everything, and stopping the need for things to be a certain way are all key steps in moving from a place of caring to a place of Love. When you love instead of care, you trust that whatever happens will be for the best. You find you don’t care much what happens as you love the experience of the “is-ness” of things. We can Breathe, Relax, and Let Go. We can Love instead.

Love and Inner Peace,
Kaye

I hope to see you for next week’s

Are You Connected or Attached? Part Two.